10 Valuable lessons life has taught me - by Sonal Jain

We have always been told that life teaches you lessons at every stage. Every person you meet teaches you something and one who graciously learns from these lessons is a clear winner. Every human learns only after committing mistakes, but the important part is to learn and not repeat the mistakes. Here are some valuable lessons life has taught me. 

There are days when you feel the life is knocking you down, you feel you have been a dedicated failure and even after rigorous trials and errors things do not work. But these are the days when life teaches you your important lessons. I have always been reluctant to act immediately whenever there has been any downfall. I take time to analyse what went wrong and then start from a new end.

Such valuable lessons are important to better oneself, so here I am sharing a few life lessons I have learnt to date and I leant them very early in life. Since I also believe you are always learning and evolving, there are a few life lessons I have learnt the hard way and I am grateful to such experiences in life.

1. Punctuality is a virtue-

·       Punctuality is one of the greatest qualities and life lesson to have. I once read somewhere that respect people’s time if you want your time to be respected. This has been by far one quality I have constantly tried to work on and succeeded most of the times.

·       When I see people are casual about being late at work or for anything, I get upset about it. If you ever want to be respected, respect the time.

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2. Be a Patient listener-

·       To be a good listener is a great quality not everyone works upon. At times people only need someone to lend their ears rather than just walk away or give advice without knowledge.

·       Consider yourself a silent hero if you ever patiently listen to someone’s problems and worries. This life lesson has been very useful to me and has helped me stay calm in situations that were not in my control.

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3. A giver by heart-

·       One who is a giver by heart will always be happy in life and this is one of my mantras to a happy life. When you become a giver, you see the universe rewarding you when it's your time. Giver of emotional or mental support, giver of positive vibes and so much more.

·       When you consciously deny being a true giver, that is when life teaches you a lesson. To each their own, everyone has a different experience on this but the I have personally witnessed this in my life and closely noticed it for others too.

 

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 4. Forgive and let live-

·       Forgiveness is something you give others but let life is for you. Confused? Let me explain. Holding grudges against anyone can be self-damaging. It can stop your growth, ability to think and make decisions. This is in the case where people have let you down or hurt you with words and actions. Some things are not in your control but still happen.

·       Ultimately, the situation affects you and the other person does not even realise it. So, forgive them and set yourself free. This life lesson is all about a situation with no positive outcome if we tend to hold it up against it.

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5. Always prepare yourself-

·       This is such an important life lesson that I have learnt all through my school and college-going years. Being prepared is the first step to achieving success.

·       Some situations can go out of your control and then you are expected to act accordingly but, in most cases, preparation helps you keep your confidence high. Allow yourself the time to prepare and only then act.

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6. Envy cripples your heart-

·       Envy is the worst feeling that develops in your heart. Developing this feeling is very normal in this competitive world but it cripples your heart in different ways especially when you are trying to be like someone else.

·       The best way to leave this out of focus is to work on your own self. Getting jealous is normal but having confidence in you and your qualities is important. This life lesson is going to help you learn a lot more about life and give you the confidence to better yourself.

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7. Pleasing everyone is not easy or required-

·       This is something I have learnt the hard way. It is not easy to please everyone with your opinions or actions. The only way out of this is to stick to your opinions and care a little less about how people perceive it. The onus is on people around you to understand that you can have a different way of doing stuff and can have a different opinion.

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8. Compassion and empathy are irreplaceable-

·       Being Compassionate or empathetic are two sides of the same coin. These two are super important qualities to have and life has taught me the importance of these time and again. When people come to me to share their problems and express their gratitude for listening makes me the happiest.

·       As you grow up, you see so many incidents where people have forgotten what empathy is and such incidents dishearten you, but always remember such incidents should not be a base for you to forget about these two qualities in life.

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        9. Learn to accept flaws-

·       If you read my blog the other day, how to overcome your fears? This blog is all about the recent advancements in my life. Very recently I came to terms with my flaws and learnt how to overcome them. It is very important to learn, accept and move on. The more you hold back, the more it disturbs you. 

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10.  Mend your goals-

·      This is a very subjective life lesson and can be perceived differently by everyone. It is important to be flexible with your goals so that you can live a life that is free of stress. Many times when you are unable to reach the goal you set, you tend to get demotivated. If you keep your goals flexible and try them differently, life would be much easier. 

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These were some of the most important lessons life has taught me at every step. There are many other life lessons that I have learnt so far. Some of these are staying positive and calm to tackle any situation, being polite with words and actions, showing utmost kindness to everyone you cross paths with, thinking twice before speaking and so many more.   

Many times I also fail to follow them but then in my subconscious mind, I know what I need to do. Now I am more evolved to learn from mistakes, to try and improve the flaws and keep going ahead. Learning never stops because the one who knows it all is never going to evolve. 

 

Referring to point number 9, you can read my 2nd blog here.

https://iseelifethroughlenses.blogspot.com/2021/05/how-to-overcome-your-fears-by-sonal-jain.html

 

 Thank you for reading. Hope you liked it.